Do you remember the fun of bed time with your
children or was it a nightly horror with them getting up and out and the constant crying?
I had four children two boys and then twin girls so by the time
it came to the girls I thought I had it licked.
Dinner, a bath, then story time in their bed, lights out and sleep.
My eldest was the most difficult and just wanted to play but perseverance won in the end and as he got older the promise he could read books to himself after we had left worked a treat.
My second son loved all of the above but after a story was always ready to go straight to sleep….He was a dream child!
Now my twins, well let me tell you they challenged all the ideas I had but not as a problem just with a difference.
When they were born and wrapped they snuggled in happily but only if they were near each other!. When we got home the two cots were rarely used as they were always happiest next to each
other.
Now other people had more problems with this then we did as they thought they may always need to be together and then what would we do.
Well the years rolled on and we bought them separate beds (silly move as they slept in the same one most nights) then in their teenage years we put them in separate rooms, decorated each room as they
wanted with new double beds, desks etc and you guessed it…they still slept in one bed most of the time, chatting, giggling and feeling safe.
They are adults now with partners and sometimes home or sometimes not but I love to see them plan a night in together, watch a movie and then snuggle up and chat and giggle in the same bed!
We have always talked about them as “the girls”not twins and treated them as individuals. They have travelled together and apart, worked in different countries and have some different friends but the bond and love for each other and their brothers is strong and I find myself smiling as young mums today tell me the books they have read on how their children should sleep, where, when and with whom and I always ask them;
“What do you think you should do?”
We are all different, our children have different needs, and no one answer is right for us all, so do what you think will work as it may be different for each child you have at different times in their lives.
Happy bed time :)
Jane
children or was it a nightly horror with them getting up and out and the constant crying?
I had four children two boys and then twin girls so by the time
it came to the girls I thought I had it licked.
Dinner, a bath, then story time in their bed, lights out and sleep.
My eldest was the most difficult and just wanted to play but perseverance won in the end and as he got older the promise he could read books to himself after we had left worked a treat.
My second son loved all of the above but after a story was always ready to go straight to sleep….He was a dream child!
Now my twins, well let me tell you they challenged all the ideas I had but not as a problem just with a difference.
When they were born and wrapped they snuggled in happily but only if they were near each other!. When we got home the two cots were rarely used as they were always happiest next to each
other.
Now other people had more problems with this then we did as they thought they may always need to be together and then what would we do.
Well the years rolled on and we bought them separate beds (silly move as they slept in the same one most nights) then in their teenage years we put them in separate rooms, decorated each room as they
wanted with new double beds, desks etc and you guessed it…they still slept in one bed most of the time, chatting, giggling and feeling safe.
They are adults now with partners and sometimes home or sometimes not but I love to see them plan a night in together, watch a movie and then snuggle up and chat and giggle in the same bed!
We have always talked about them as “the girls”not twins and treated them as individuals. They have travelled together and apart, worked in different countries and have some different friends but the bond and love for each other and their brothers is strong and I find myself smiling as young mums today tell me the books they have read on how their children should sleep, where, when and with whom and I always ask them;
“What do you think you should do?”
We are all different, our children have different needs, and no one answer is right for us all, so do what you think will work as it may be different for each child you have at different times in their lives.
Happy bed time :)
Jane
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