When I was young I remember dreaming of travel and adventure and then marriage and children.
Well I did do all of those things in that order so I was sure I was on track and yes I did actually want 4 children even though I didn't factor my wonderful twins in the equation and things looked rosy each night when all were in bed.
Its the mornings that it all started and went steadily downhill.
The mounds of washing, endless picking up of toys and food and items I didn't even have names for!
I told myself it would change in time, as they grew older it would get easier and they would help around the house, picking up their own things and putting them away.
Um-mm now no one knew where the spare keys were, or the dog lead or the school notices so I had to ask them to stop being quite so helpful for a few years and so it went on.
Then light at the end of the tunnel! The kids grew up, started driving, being organised, house sitting, and travelling.
My life started to look rosy again or did it?
Our front door became the entrance to a speedway and it was a whirlwind in, clothes thrown everywhere in the attempt to find "that top" and there they stayed until the next visit or wash day or another event! Are all kids bedrooms the same?
I closed the door but when it was opened and I walked past I couldnt help it..I had to go in..guiding my feet to carefully find floor space and teeter while wondering where to start.
I can hear you saying it now as I did myself.."Its not your mess and they are old enough to tidy up"
but I cant help it! I just want it clean and tidy and orderly! Remember I invented our Coshee quilt cover to help this!
For years I waited patiently for this day and it is slowly receding as I watch the piles grow and the mess accumulate to the sighs and eye rolls of "Dont worry I will do it when I get home. Just close the door and don't look in there."
When does the housework stop? As parents did we miss a line when we got married after the "Till death do us part" that said "Housework will be yours forever and ever?"
Maybe I had that glazed look of love on that day and I didn't hear it but I challenge any parent to tell me that they can walk past that closed door and not want to clean and tidy!
It must be a parent gene :(
This morning my daughter Caitlin started talking about her week, her friends and what a busy life she leads!
I asked her how she thought parents do it with children, and work, and friends to visit and she answered “You know what you are doing, you have had practice and anyway you’re a chicken soup”
Pardon? Repeat that line.. ”You’re a chicken soup”
What do you mean? I asked. “Well, she said. I think of you as warm and comforting. The kind of person I always need to have around when I don’t feel well or I need to chat to, just like the chicken soup you make when we didn't feel well as kids.”
“Me, on the other hand, Caitlin said. I am a Thai Laksa, hot and spicy and something to be enjoyed with friends with lots of laughs on a Saturday night when there is a party to go too!
In our group of friends we often talk about what sort of foods we are like as people, it’s fun and when you think of it you do match the Chicken soup and I right now am a perfect match to a Thai Laksa.”
I had to stop and mull over this for awhile and decided she was right. When my children were sick I always made chicken soup with loads of parsley to make them feel better and give them nourishment and snuggled them in bed.
The first time my son felt unwell after leaving home he rang and asked if I could make the soup as he was sure that would make him feel better.
So Caitlin has raised an interesting topic. What sort of food are you? And can it change? If I am now a chicken soup can I become a Thai Laksa when the children have all left home and my husband and I have unlimited freedom? Or will I always be a Chicken Soup and do I mind? Ummmm….
What sort of food would you like to be?
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I am Jane - a mum of 4, lover of dogs and cats, with a passion for stylish items for your home and the environment that don't
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